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Baltimore mothers grieving multiple losses to violence

'I love my city, but my city is out of control'

Baltimore mothers grieving multiple losses to violence

'I love my city, but my city is out of control'

FAMILY, AND THEN WE MEET A WOMAN WHO EXPERIENCED IT THREE TIMES OVER. WHEN THE FAMILY OF 16-YEAR-OLD MARKELL HENDRICKS GATHERED FOR HIS FUNERAL IN MARCH, IT WAS A HAUNTING SENSE OF DEJA VU. ESPECIALLY FOR HIS GRANDMOTHER. >> I DON’T KNOW IF I AM CRYING OVER MY SON OR IF I AM CRYING OVER MY GRANDSON. DEBORAH: ARNETTA BROWN’S SON, BRIAN, WAS MURDERED IN 2013. NOW, MARKELL BRIAN, NAMED AFTER HIS UNCLE, SHARES HIS FATE -- MURDER VICTIM. >> I LOVE MY CITY, BUT MY CITY IS OUT OF CONTROL. DEBORAH: IMAGINE COUNSELING MORE THAN A THOUSAND GRIEVING MOTHERS. MILLIE BROWN, WHO FOUNDED A GROUP CALLED TEARS OF A MOTHER’S CRY IN 2007, HAS DONE JUST THAT. >> THEY HAVE ALL LOST A CHILD OR TWO CHILDREN OR THREE CHILDREN. DEBORAH: ALICE OAKS LOST HER SONS, IRVIN AND LARRY, SIX YEARS APART. -- HER ONLY SONS, IRVIN AND LARRY, SIX YEARS APART. BOTH, GUNNED DOWN. >> WHAT WE HAD TO DO TO GET TO WHERE WE ARE TODAY, WE SHOULD BE LOVING EACH OTHER. DEBORAH: BURNETT MCFADDEN LOST THREE SONS TO GUN VIOLENCE, IN -- TO GUN VIOLENCE IN THE SAME YEAR. >> IT WAS SO BAD. MY FAMILY WAS SCARED. DEBORAH: 20-YEAR-OLD LINTON WANTED TO BE A JUDGE. 17-YEAR-OLD REGINALD AND 18-YEAR-OLD RANDOLPH WANTED TO PURSUE ART. HIS MURDER WAS FEBRUARY 8, 2005, MARCH 6, 2005, THEN WE HAVE MAY 13, 2005, MOTHER’S DAY. DEBORAH: BURNETT SHOWED ME PICTURES, INCLUDING ONE WITH RANDOLPH IN HIS CASKET, SAYING, -- SAYING PEOPLE SHOULD SEE WHAT A MRDERED CHILD LOOKS LIKE. >> WE’RE PISSED OFF AS MOTHERS, WE’RE REALLY PISSED OFF. DEBORAH: ARNETTA BROWN, A FORMER CORRECTIONAL OFFICER, SHARES MARKELL’S STORY ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND URGES PEOPLE TO COME FORWARD WITH INFORMATION. >> UNTIL YOU CUT A WEED DOWN AND DIG IT UP FROM THE ROOT, IT IS GOING TO KEEP GROWING. IF YOU GET THAT WE’D OUT OF YOUR COMMUNITY -- WEED OUT OF YOUR COMMUNITY, IT CAN’T GROW. DEBORAH: AT THE BEREAVEMENT CENTER, ROBERTA’S HOUSE, ADVOCATES UNDERSTAND THAT AND SO MUCH MORE. DEBORAH: CHERYL BEEBE HELPS A MOTHER PREPARE FOR HER SON’S FIRST BIRTHDAY WITHOUT HIM. >> THIS IS A CLUB YOU DON’T WANT TO BELONG TO AND I DON’T WANT ANY MOTHER TO BELONG TO THIS. DEBORAH: THIS WEEKEND, MILLIE BROWN WILL HOST AN ANNUAL CELEBRATION OF MOTHERS DETERMINED TO BRING JOY BACK INTO THEIR LIVES. >> I’M NOT GOING TO SIT BACK AND WAIT TO LOSE MY CHILD BEFORE I REACH OUT TO A MOTHER THAT HAS LOST HERS. IT’S ABOUT CARING ABOUT PEOPLE. DEBORAH: ARNETTA TRIES TO STAY BUSY. FOR HER, COOKING HELPS AUNTIE! DEBORAH: BURNETT MCFADDEN, WHO DESPITE A MOUNTAIN OF LOSS, FILLS HER HEART WITH THE LOVE OF NIECES AND NEPHEWS. LIVING, SHE SAYS, FOR HER SONS WHO LIVE IN HER. >> SEEING THEIR SMILES, THOSE AS -- THESE EYES ARE RANDOLPH. MY VOICE IS REGINALD. THOSE ARE MY SONS SPEAKING. I HAVE THEIR VOICE. DEBORAH: AN INCREDIBLE WOMAN. BURNETTE DONATED HER SONS ORGANS -- HER SON’S ORGANS THROUGH THE LIVING LEGACY FOUNDATION. AT THEIR EVENTS, SHE SAYS SHE IS THE ONLY MOTHER WHO STANDS TO BE RECOGNIZED FOR THIS CONTRIBUTION THREE TIMES OVER. MILLIE BROWN’S ORGANIZATION, TEARS OF A MOTHER’S CRY, IS SPONSORING A MOTHER’S DAY CELEBRATION ON SATURDAY FROM 3:00 TO 6:00 AT THE WAR MEMORIAL BUILDING. I WILL BE THERE TO MEET THESE MOTHERS. BURNETTE IS EXPECTED TO ATTEND ALONG WITH DOZENS OF OTHERS TO CELEBRATE MOTHER’S DAY AND TRULY, THEIR OWN SURVIVAL.
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Baltimore mothers grieving multiple losses to violence

'I love my city, but my city is out of control'

There will be an extraordinary event this Mother's Day that honors women who are surviving a loss, and in some cases multiple losses, to violence.While the statistics are unknown for the number of Baltimore-area mothers who have lost more than one child to violence, it was shockingly not difficult to find them.When the family of 16-year-old Markell Hendricks gathered for his funeral in March, it was a haunting sense of deja vu, especially for his grandmother, Arnetta Brown."I don't know if I'm crying over my son or if I'm crying over my grandson," Brown said.Brown's son, Brian, was killed in 2013. Now, Markell Brian Hendricks, named after his uncle, shares his fate as a murder victim."I love my city, but my city is out of control," Brown said.Millie Brown, who founded a group called Tears of a Mother's Cry in 2007, has counseled more than 1,000 grieving mothers."They've all lost a child, or two children, or three children," Millie Brown said.Alice Oaks, lost her only sons -- Irvin and Larry -- six years apart to gun violence."Being a black mother, and all these others being a black mother, what our ancestors had to endure to where we are today? We should be loving on each other," Oaks said.Burnett McFadden lost three sons to gun violence in the same year. "It was so bad that my family was scared for me to call," McFadden said.Her 20-year-old son, Linton, wanted to be a judge. Her 17-year-old son, Reginald, and 18-year-old son, Randolph, wanted to pursue art."The first murder was Feb. 8, 2005, March 6, 2005, and then we had May 13, 2005, Mother's Day," McFadden said.McFadden shared pictures -- including one with Randolph in his casket -- saying people should see what a murdered child looks like."We're pissed off as mothers. We're really pissed off," McFadden said.Arnetta Brown, a former correctional officer, shared Markell's story on social media and urges people to come forward with information."Until you cut a weed down and dig it up from the root, it's going to keep going, so if you get that weed out of the community, it can't grow," Arnetta Brown said.At the bereavement center Roberta's House, advocates understand that and so much more. Cheryl Beebe helped a mother prepare for her son's first birthday without him."This is a club you don't want to belong to, and I don't want anyone to belong to this," Beebe said.This weekend, Millie Brown will host an annual celebration of mothers, determined to bring joy back into their lives."I'm not going to sit back and wait to lose my child before I reach out to a mother that has lost hers. It's about caring about people," Millie Brown said.Arnetta Brown said she tries to stay busy. For her, cooking helps.McFadden, who despite a mountain of loss, fills her heart with the love of nieces and nephews, saying she lives for her sons who live in her."The smile is Linton, these eyes are Randolph, my voice is Reginald. Those are my sons speaking. I have their voice," McFadden said.McFadden donated her sons organs through the Living Legacy Foundation. At their events, she said she is the only mother who stands to be recognized for this contribution three times over.Millie Brown's organization, Tears of a Mother's Cry, is sponsoring a Mother's Day celebration Saturday from 3 to 6 p.m. at the War Memorial Building in downtown Baltimore. McFadden is expected to attend along with dozens of others.Information to the Tears of Mother's Cry event can be found here.

There will be an extraordinary event this Mother's Day that honors women who are surviving a loss, and in some cases multiple losses, to violence.

While the statistics are unknown for the number of Baltimore-area mothers who have lost more than one child to violence, it was shockingly not difficult to find them.

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When the family of 16-year-old Markell Hendricks gathered for his funeral in March, it was a haunting sense of deja vu, especially for his grandmother, Arnetta Brown.

"I don't know if I'm crying over my son or if I'm crying over my grandson," Brown said.

Brown's son, Brian, was killed in 2013. Now, Markell Brian Hendricks, named after his uncle, shares his fate as a murder victim.

"I love my city, but my city is out of control," Brown said.

Millie Brown, who founded a group called Tears of a Mother's Cry in 2007, has counseled more than 1,000 grieving mothers.

"They've all lost a child, or two children, or three children," Millie Brown said.

Alice Oaks, lost her only sons -- Irvin and Larry -- six years apart to gun violence.

"Being a black mother, and all these others being a black mother, what our ancestors had to endure to where we are today? We should be loving on each other," Oaks said.

Burnett McFadden lost three sons to gun violence in the same year.

"It was so bad that my family was scared for me to call," McFadden said.

Her 20-year-old son, Linton, wanted to be a judge. Her 17-year-old son, Reginald, and 18-year-old son, Randolph, wanted to pursue art.

"The first murder was Feb. 8, 2005, March 6, 2005, and then we had May 13, 2005, Mother's Day," McFadden said.

McFadden shared pictures -- including one with Randolph in his casket -- saying people should see what a murdered child looks like.

"We're pissed off as mothers. We're really pissed off," McFadden said.

Arnetta Brown, a former correctional officer, shared Markell's story on social media and urges people to come forward with information.

"Until you cut a weed down and dig it up from the root, it's going to keep going, so if you get that weed out of the community, it can't grow," Arnetta Brown said.

At the bereavement center Roberta's House, advocates understand that and so much more. Cheryl Beebe helped a mother prepare for her son's first birthday without him.

"This is a club you don't want to belong to, and I don't want anyone to belong to this," Beebe said.

This weekend, Millie Brown will host an annual celebration of mothers, determined to bring joy back into their lives.

"I'm not going to sit back and wait to lose my child before I reach out to a mother that has lost hers. It's about caring about people," Millie Brown said.

Arnetta Brown said she tries to stay busy. For her, cooking helps.

McFadden, who despite a mountain of loss, fills her heart with the love of nieces and nephews, saying she lives for her sons who live in her.

"The smile is Linton, these eyes are Randolph, my voice is Reginald. Those are my sons speaking. I have their voice," McFadden said.

McFadden donated her sons organs through the Living Legacy Foundation. At their events, she said she is the only mother who stands to be recognized for this contribution three times over.

Millie Brown's organization, Tears of a Mother's Cry, is sponsoring a Mother's Day celebration Saturday from 3 to 6 p.m. at the War Memorial Building in downtown Baltimore. McFadden is expected to attend along with dozens of others.

Information to the Tears of Mother's Cry event can be found here.