Itās considered the āMost Wonderful Time of the Year,ā but in this case, one Christmas stocking doesnāt quite fit all.
Eating, drinking and spending money (too much) can lead to anxiety -- what is termed by experts as āseasonal depressionā --and it likely will be enhanced this year with perhaps the first family or friends get-togethers in almost two years due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
āItās a real issue for patients and people in general,ā said Dr. Mary Weatherford, Ph.D., a licensed clinical psychologist in Coral Gables who serves the Key Biscayne area.
āAll things considered, what they can do is start to talk to a mental health therapist or psychologist,ā she added. āAnd now would be a good time to do it. Itās not like taking an aspirin and 30 minutes later youāre fine.ā
According to surveys and medical studies by the National Institutes of Health in Maryland and the National Alliance on Mental Illness-Louisiana, between 14% and 64% of the population have been affected by the āwinter bluesā as a result of loneliness, grieving a personal loss or increased social expectations, just to name a few risk factors.
Combine any of those with hesitation or ālack of social practiceā after being isolated from others for much of the past two years, and the cheers suddenly turn to fear.
Dr. Weatherford, who uses a psychotherapy neurofeedback process to ātrain the brain to be flexible and resilient to function optimally,ā is backed by the Colorado-based Biofeedback Certification International Alliance, a rarity in Miami-Dade County.
Among her tips to stay healthy during the holidays:
- āA lot of people who are depressed hunch down,ā she said, āso I tell them to sit up straight and consciously roll their shoulders back and hold their head up. First of all, itās an outward presentation of feeling happier and also makes them feel better.ā
- āIf youāre going to be with friends and if youāre afraid, just do a Zoom holiday. Itās what we call BTN ā better than nothing. If youāre afraid to go out, that fear can increase cortisone levels and reduce your immunity and you become more susceptible ... to everything!ā
- āIf you havenāt been vaccinated, even naysayers, should get their vaccines. Youāre less likely to wind up in a hospital. Wearing a mask is a good idea, particularly at indoor gatherings.ā
To reach Dr. Weatherford, click here.
Clinical psychologist Dr. Neda Gould, at the Johns Hopkins University’s School of Medicine in Baltimore, also shared four valuable coping tips at hopkinsmedicine.org:
- Accept imperfection. āAcknowledge that things may not go as planned. ... it might just take a little practice,ā she wrote.
- Donāt lose sight of what really counts. āWhere does it fit in the grand scheme? ... a long line at the grocery store is just that. ... Connect with someone with a compliment and an open mind.ā
- Respond with kindness. āYou canāt change how others act ... if it does get tense, take a few breaths ... that can shift things and give you a new perspective.ā
- Rethink your resolutions. āTypical New Yearās resolutions set you up for failure. Start small ... and be kind to yourself. Let go of the negativity.ā
When it comes to the elderly population, especially those on Key Biscayne, H. Francis Reaves, Esq., is especially tuned in to their holiday needs and demands.
As an elders columnist and president of Parent Your Parents, a senior healthcare consulting firm in Miami, Reaves said elders have wisdom and experience. But, when it comes to them enjoying the holidays, she also has some tips to offer:
- Be cautious of expectations. āIf you havenāt seen your grandkids in awhile, do they want to see you? At age 10 to 12, they may be more interested in texting their friends. Kids change, even from 2 to 3. So be true to yourself.
- Stay home if youād prefer. āIf you donāt want to go all the way to New York, or even Milwaukee, for a family gathering, then donāt go.ā
- Enjoy it all. āEnjoy eating, saying the prayers at Hanukkah, lighting a candle or putting ornaments on a Christmas tree. Let it be fun, and donāt let it be anything more. Remember, youāre a wise, experienced elder.ā
Reaves also has a nice outlook for seniors this holiday season.
āA reward for being (that age) is that you'll be getting a nice 5.9% boost in your Social Security check in January, the biggest increase in 40 years,ā she said.
āSo, itās all good ... Hanukkah, Christmas, New Yearās ... itās all fun.ā
Words to live by ā for everyone.